The FARANG Speaks 2 Much

It takes time living in Bangkok to experience all the different aspects of dealing with Thai Women. U can read all u want. U can listen to your buddies but at the end of the day sometimes u just have to go through it yourself to really get a grasp of things. Someday when I feel that I am not longer looking over my back I may just tell my own tale of love, co-habitation, and break up but I still won’t walk down a dark soi alone so clearly I am not ready. However I will tell a small tale of what it has been like to try a date a proper Thai girl. How dumb was I…

We met in one of the after-hours club and I could not take my eyes off her when she first walked in. I had been to this place many times and had never seen her. Fresh meat. So we got to chatting and by the end of the night we exchanged phone numbers. I waited a few days and called her to discuss a concert I had tickets for. At that point we did not conenct again until a few days before the concert to make plans for the concert. All good. We met for some drinks a few days prior and we got plowed. She spent the night. We played around. No sex. Okay. I can deal with it. Bkk has pinch hitters.

This scenario was repeated a few times over the next month or so. Party. Go back to my place or hers. Yes. Her place. Nice apartment. No roomates. Pretty impressive. Then I started to pry a little more. Nice apartment. No job. She buys the drinks sometimes. She said she has some money saved, is taking a break from school and looking at doing some business with friends. Cool. I left it at that.

Then some patterns started to emerge. I notice that her group of friends were freelancers working CM2, Sin Club, Qbar and so on. No drama. Pretty common in Bkk. However there were 2 girls, both quite gorgeous, who also went out a lot, never worked and seemed to get by pretty well. This is when I was told they had boyfriends who take care of them but are rarely in Thailand. Must be nice. I discussed this scenario before - the Western Union girls. If u can hook up with one of them then u are living the dream. Let the sugar daddy pay the bills.

So all this got me thinking again. We never had sex. She always had time to see me. She never worked but had money. So one night over drinks I asked again and she mentioned she used to have a boyfriend that she lived with and took care of her. In this scenario sometimes after the breakup a guy will give the girl some money to help her get on her feet after the breakup. Quite common in Thailand so I just assumed without asking that this was going on.

At this point I was starting to get a little frustrated. We were like friends going out on the town but yet I was attracted to her even though I never got any. We are talking months here folks. I also never felt like I should push too hard or try to pick up on others while with her. So basically I was having fun going out with her, she is gorgeous, but I was getting a little pent up.

So the other week we meet some friends for dinner. Then we split off and went to a nice wine bar in silom. Shared a bottle of white. Good times. Then we went over to Silom to club it a bit before going home. In the taxi on the way home while making out she got a phone call. She checked the number and asked me to be quiet. Then she proceeded to talk to some guy in English saying she was one her way home, how was he doing and that she would call him later. Bingo. I had been had.

So we got out near my pad and talked. She quickly explained that she has a boring boyfriend who sends her lots of money, rarely gets to Thailand and that she hates it but does not know what to do. I was somewhat shocked and a little bummed out but it was may fault for not digging deeper earlier but I did clearly ask her before and she always claimed not to have a boyfriend. So she had lied.

At the end of the day I should have played it much better. I should have sorted the boyfriend thing out and then said look - we can go out but can we have sex? And if so then no problem. No sex. No problem too but she has too quit flirting with me. Yet - just being friends kind of lead me to believe that maybe we could have been bf/gf one day and I think that is what she wanted but of course she needed to see if I was the new gravy train. Which - to her suprise I had no intention of being the new sugar daddy. Anyway. I bid farewell and walked home. Knowing that with all my bkk experience I had been duped. That bugged me more than anything - that I was not on top of my game. Maybe it was because I really liked her and was not expecting that I needed to be on top of my game. Live and learn. I just wish I could say I got some after all of this. But I didn’t. I hit Patpong the next day to make up for it. More on that later…